The search for happiness

Happiness is a long walk in beautiful, unfamiliar mountains

I’ve just read Hector and the search for happiness by François Lelord, which was recommended to me by my friend. The story is about Hector who is a psychiatrist and goes on a journey to try and find out what are the lessons of happiness. The book is quite funny and easy to read, as it’s written in a simple child like way, but talks about serious topics such as prostitution and globalisation which Hector encounters on his journey. Lelord, like Hector is also a psychiatrist, which gives his book credibility.

I’ve also now read Hector and the secrets of love and now I am reading Hector finds time, which I am also enjoying.

So what did Hector find out when he went searching for happiness? Well you can read his list here and it will save you from reading the book, although the book puts them into context, because he realises each lesson from the situations he gets into.

Hector’s lessons for happiness

  1. Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.
  2. Happiness often comes when least expected.
  3. Many people see happiness only in their future.
  4. Many people think that happiness comes from having more power or more money.
  5. Sometimes happiness in not knowing the whole story.
  6. Happiness is a long walk in beautiful, unfamiliar mountains.
  7. It’s a mistake to think that happiness is the goal.
  8. Happiness is being with the people you love.
  9. Unhappiness is being separated from the people you love.
  10. Happiness is knowing your family lacks for nothing.
  11. Happiness is doing a job you love.
  12. Happiness is shaving a home and a garden of your own.
  13. It’s harder to be happy in a country run by bad people.
  14. Happiness is feeling useful to others.
  15. Happiness is to be loved for exactly who you are.
  16. Happiness comes when you feel truly alive.
  17. Happiness is knowing how to celebrate.
  18. Happiness is caring about the happiness of those you love.
  19.  Happiness could be freedom to love more than one woman at the same time.
  20. The sun and the sea make everybody happy.
  21. Happiness is a certain way of seeing things.
  22. Rivalry poisons happiness.
  23. Women care more than men about making others happy.

What do you think, do you have another lesson to add?

Don’t worry, be happy.

About Maia

My name is Maia, I live in London, UK, and I originally come from the Czech Republic. Maia's World is my blog where I write about life in general, personal development, and about ideas, beliefs and discoveries on how to live a fuller life.
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2 Responses to The search for happiness

  1. Good list there. I really liked “Making comparisons can spoil your happiness.” Our happiness, or sense of self-worth, or accomplishment, or anything else shouldn’t be tied into what someone else has experienced. It’s not a zero-sum game. There’s plenty of happiness to go around, regardless of how much anybody else had. And that includes not feeling superior because you have more than someone else. You should be happy because you have life itself. Noting that someone else is less fortunate shouldn’t be the impetus for your happiness. You should already be happy aside from that.

    I also like the idea that happiness is more a result of appreciating what is there rather than trying to accumulate more. We can get in an endless loop of chasing our own tails if we think happiness means more, more, more. That’s an illusion, one that’s perpetuated by marketers.

    • Maia says:

      Hi Rusty, yes I agree. Also it seems that no matter how much we have we still want more, and even people with dream lives are not happy, because there is always someone else who’s got more than them

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